Approval Addictions and How to be Free of Them

 

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Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.  Colossians 3:12

This past week was a trying one for me.  This week was not looking any better…until today.  Yesterday I was told by a loved one that I was not as loved as others in my family.  I had always suspected this, but never had this person ever come right out and said it.  You can imagine the hurt this brought to my heart.

Today when I awakened, Satan was right there to remind me of the horrid conversation  that took place the day before.  God warned me an attack was coming and to be prepared for it.  I did not remember that prophecy at the time, but today God reminded me of it.  He cautioned me not to fall into offense because if I did it would lead to destruction…my own.

I thank God for warning me in advance.  Thank God I was not blindsided by it.  As I thought about the prophecy today, and the attack that took place on me emotionally, I was grieved by it.  But God had something to say about it all.   He told me something that would set me free and something that will keep me free from the approval and disapproval of man!  Since a blog is a journal, I am writing it down in its purest form to always remind me.

God said, “If I (God) saw you the way you and the world see others, how would I think?  I could easily say that I have been with you all your life.  You were raised in church, but yet you still miss the mark daily and fail me. 

The things you could do for me and toward me you don’t.  You don’t praise me everyday as I have asked you to.  You don’t read the Bible as you know to do.  You make sure you know what time it is every Tuesday so you can be ready for your favorite television program and can sit in deep concentration for a full hour,  but many days I am fortunate to get thirty minutes.  Life is busy right?  How I would love to have the attention you give to everything and everyone else. 

I am not happy.  Your behavior has made me unhappy, and my happiness is contingent on the way you treat Me and what you do for Me.  If you had given Me the attention I have so craved, if you had met all of MY needs, if you would bother to try to understand Me, then My life would be happy.  Your approval is necessary to my happiness and if you don’t give it,  I won’t have it. I have forgiven you time and again, yet you still miss the mark and don’t do enough to keep me happy and satisfied. 

I can no longer take your behavior.  I have decided My life would be better off without you.  I am not going to be around anymore.  You have become unhealthy for me.  I don’t want to see you, hear from you, or see anything that even reminds Me of you.  I have given you grace before and mercy, but you have used it up.  My life would be better without you since you don’t fulfill me or bring the happiness I require. 

I am not going to allow you into heaven because then I would have to see you all the time, and I just can’t deal with that.  You will have to go to hell so I can be happy without any reminders of you and all the ways you hurt Me over the years.  I wish you the best, but I have to love you from a distance, so don’t call Me and I won’t be bothering you.

Harsh words, but true thoughts.  How many times have I treated those who have hurt and wounded me this way?  Oh I didn’t realize it at the time, but today God showed me the receiving end of this stick.  When He did He reminded me of the debtor who owed millions of dollars to his master who he was indebted to (Matthew 18:23-35).   He knew he would be thrown in a debtor’s prison never to see his family again and begged for mercy and forgiveness.  It was given and his debt was wiped out, just as Jesus’s blood wiped our debts out when we came to Him for mercy and forgiveness.

Not long after the man was freed from the bondage of that debt he saw someone who owed him.  This man owed him very little, yet he grabbed him by the throat and demanded payment in full and threatened his life if it wasn’t paid in full (this is the way we are when we walk in the our way instead of God’s supernatural way). 

When the master who was owed the millions heard of this he was furious and called for the man who had been forgiven of his great debt to be brought to him.  Because of his behavior and lack of mercy and grace toward the one who owed so little the master, who forgave much, withdrew that forgiveness and enforced the original sentence to life in a debtor’s prison…what the man had actually deserved.  Thank God for grace which absolves us of guilt and all we deserve.

When we deal with people by holding their feet to the flames, so to speak, we have positioned ourselves for dire consequences as well.  That path leads only to destruction…not the destruction of the person who did us wrong, but destruction to ourselves.  I am responsible for my happiness.  That power does not rest on you, but on what I choose to feel and think.  As I thought about what God was showing me, I cried out to Him for forgiveness.  I had no idea my thoughts and actions had become so ungracious toward others.  Were the ones who hurt me wrong?  Yes, but so was I.  The irony was I was hurting myself worse than anything anyone else had done because I was moving myself away from God’s will for my life, which carries great promise and great reward.

I remember when Jesse Ventura said Christianity was for wimps.  Show me where doing supernatural things in the natural is even possible, much less ‘wimpy’ or easy.  The Christian walk cannot be done without God, it is such a difficult one.  You have to have God’s super on your natural to forgive the unforgivable, to give grace and mercy when maximum punishment is rightfully due.  To pray for those who use you and persecute you to be blessed is impossible to mean if not for God giving us a supernatural ability to do it…yet, it can be done! 

Now when I look at others, I will ask myself if God were to see me and think toward me the way I am thinking and feeling toward that person, how would I feel. Would it be what I would want done to me? So simple…how did I miss it for so long? 

I felt the weight of the world lift from my shoulders when I came to this realization today.  I don’t have to be concerned with what anyone is thinking or saying about me.  I don’t have to worry if I am loved as much or less than someone else.  My present and future does not rely on anyone’s approval but God’s.  I have His approval and He is the last say on where I spend eternity.  Whether people think I deserve it or not, I will be blessed if I stay in love.  The only one who can stop His blessing is ME!!!  I don’t have to worry where my needs are going to come from and that includes my most basic needs which is love, for God is my Source!  He will open doors people cannot open and He will do it in the face of my enemies…HE sets a table before me in their presence (Psalm 23). 

Far too long I have worried about the approval of people.  I have sought to find my worth in it.  I have mourned and have allowed myself to feel less than when I was found lacking by one or by many.  How frustrating to seek what is impossible to ever have.  No one can make me happy or that my life is of infinite value except God and me

I have to choose to put on the robe of righteousness (His way of being and doing).  I have to choose to put God first, and that means what He thinks above all others.  I have to choose to let my good character speak for itself, and if I am judged or misjudged it is on God’s shoulders to make it right and He will.  But if there are critics that refuse to see what God sees, and their minds never change I still win because I am exactly as I should be in my Father’s eyes and He will cause everything to work out for my good.  You see it is a win/win, no lose situation.  When you truly realize that, you are free to love, free to forgive, you are free indeed! 

Men die for freedom.  Jesus died for mine and yours.  That is how important freedom is.  It removes fear of people, fear of society and its dictates, and fear of never being all I want to be and should be, the fear of disapproval. 

Fear is a heavy weight.  It stops you and hinders you from joy, happiness and contentment.  It hinders you from leading life to the fullest and stepping out in faith because fear produces the opposite effects of faith which is rooted in God’s way of loving and brings courage. 

His yoke is easy and His burden is light.  God never intended for me to walk in the wounds of rejection, nor the need for approval of anyone other than Him.  Thank God He set me free to love not just the loveable, but the unlovable…just like me.

 

 

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Something To Think About

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April 10, 2013 Lyn Leahz | Vine of Life News

If today was your last day, and you never walked the face of this planet again, what would people remember you for? What things did you accomplish? Would you be greatly missed, or quickly forgotten? Would you be remembered as a selfish grump who did nothing but complain? Or, a loving, giving person who loved others and served God?

And then there’s the big question. In fact, you were probably expecting just one more question, weren’t you?

When the time comes, and it is just you and God, what will He say about your life on earth? Will He be well-pleased? Moderately pleased? Or, worse, not pleased at all?

Do know this, and think about it. This life has only one purpose! To live, and breathe, and move and to have our being in Him! Yes! You and I were made to serve God. So if most of your life has been spent serving the flesh, well then, you already know that God is not very happy with you. The good news is that if you are reading this right now, there is still time! Yes! Right now you can repent and turn to God! You can renounce the flesh, along with its corrupt desires, and start living for the Father right this very moment! He is hoping and waiting for you!

What’s more, you will have Jesus Christ in your cheering section constantly encouraging you. He has given you a helper, and a counselor, so that you don’t have to do it alone! Through the gift of salvation, you can call upon Jesus and be given this wondrous comforter called the Holy Spirit! The Spirit of God Himself will immediately come and live inside of your spirit if you sincerely ask and repent today!

Friend, tonight, tomorrow..next week…could be your last! Is there anything here in this world worth an eternity of suffering? Jesus came that you would have life, and have it more abundantly. He has saved you from eternal Hell and damnation! But in order to take hold of it, you must tell Jesus that you want to serve Him. You must ask God to forgive you of all your sins, and tell Him that you want a new life sealed by the blood of Jesus, and signed in the Lamb’s Book of Life in heaven!

What are you waiting for?

 

Answered Prayer…Always!

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Prayer works.

For many people, however, prayer is some kind of abstract experience or just an escape valve. They don’t see their prayers answered to any degree. And really, they don’t expect their prayers to be answered.

But that’s contrary to the way Jesus lived His life on the earth. And it’s contrary to the way He taught His followers to live. He taught them (and us) to live a lifestyle of faith and prayer—and to expect results.

As Christians, prayer should be as natural and powerful to us as it was to Jesus when He spoke to the fig tree in Matthew 21:18-22:

Now in the morning as he returned into the city, he hungered. And when he saw a fig tree in the way, he came to it, and found nothing thereon, but leaves only, and said unto it, Let no fruit grow on thee henceforward for ever. And presently the fig tree withered away. And when the disciples saw it, they marveled, saying, How soon is the fig tree withered away! Jesus answered and said unto them, Verily I say unto you, If ye have faith, and doubt not, ye shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree, but also if ye shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; it shall be done. And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.

Notice that when Jesus was answering their questions about the fig tree withering, He was answering their questions about something literal. He was not just referring to something spiritual. So speaking to the mountain, asking in prayer, and believing to receive work not only in the spiritual realm, but also in the physical, material realm.

When Jesus spoke to the fig tree He was demonstrating and teaching us that by using our faith, the Word of God and prayer, we too can bring circumstances in line with God’s will.

Praying With Power

When you pray do you expect results…every time? Well, you should, and you can. Here are seven steps that can help you see results in prayer—every time.

1. Base every prayer on the Word.

Prayer that brings results must be based on God’s Word. So start with the answer, which is the Word. Jesus said in John 15:7, “If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.”

For prayer to bring results, you must pray specifically. That means you must find scripture that applies to your situation and base your prayer on that scripture. For example, if you’re facing sickness, find scripture that pertains to healing. Your prayer could be based on I Peter 2:24 because that scripture says, by Jesus’ stripes you were healed.

When you have God’s Word about a particular issue, you have a foundation on which to believe Him. And when you put God’s Word in your spirit, it feeds your faith. Romans 10:17 explains, “So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.”

2. Apply your faith.

Once you find scripture that reveals God’s will regarding the situation you are facing, here’s the next step: You must apply your faith to the problem.

To apply your faith, say what you believe (speak in agreement with God’s Word). Confess the Word out loud and start thanking God that you have what He said you have. Act as though you have received it, as though it is already done.

In Isaiah 43:26, God says: “Put me in remembrance: let us plead together: declare thou, that thou mayest be justified.” To put God in remembrance of His Word and declare your case, say something like this: “Lord, right now I believe I receive what You have said in Your Word. I believe [quote the scripture you are standing on]. I’m not saying it because I feel it or see it. I’m saying it because I believe Your Word. I believe it’s done, in the Name of Jesus!”

To be afraid to confess and act as though it’s already done is to doubt God’s Word. So hold fast to your confession (read Hebrews 4:11-16)!

3. Refuse doubt and fear.

Don’t allow doubt and fear to enter your consciousness. Satan tries to undermine your faith through suggestions, dreams and visions. He will do everything he can to try and convince you the circumstances are not going to change. But remember what God’s Word says! It’s your responsibility to believe what God says and refuse doubt and fear when it comes your way.

II Corinthians 10:5 tells you to do that by “casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” You must control your mind, and you do that with the Word of God.

Dwell on the answer instead of the problem.

And be advised, some people will try to talk you out of your stand of faith. But you can refuse to receive anything that goes against the Word of God. It won’t be hard if you do what God says in Proverbs 4:20-21: “My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart.”

4. See yourself succeeding.

See what you’re believing for as done—finished. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is….” The Word says you have it—now.

So take the scripture you’re standing on and begin to see that Word as being a reality in your life.

Take that Word and renew your mind—change your mental attitude about your situation. Don’t be conformed to the world. “Be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God” (Romans 12:2).

Keep your mind on the Word and be transformed, changed. Begin to act as if you already have it. That’s acting in faith and faith will open the door for God to move in your life.

Prepare to succeed! Make no provision for the flesh (Romans 13:14). Make no provision to fail.

5. Testify of what you believe—the Word.

 

Revelation 12:11 says, “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony.” You have a right to everything Jesus’ sacrifice bought and paid for. So testify to that right. Proclaim it!

You have been redeemed by the blood of Jesus!

You are what the Word says you are!

You can have what the Word says you can have!

But knowing all that won’t do you any good if you don’t believe it, receive it, apply it in your life…and make it the word of your testimony.

6. Help someone else.

Galatians 5:6 says faith works by love. So love others. Get involved in helping people the way Jesus did. Pray for and encourage them. Give your testimony—tell them what Jesus has done for you.

When you start sharing Jesus with others, your problems will begin to roll away.

7. Get on the giving end.

Luke 6:38 says, “Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.”

This is not just talking about money. You can give in the area where you have need. Give of the little you do have, and it will be “given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over.”

For instance, if you need healing, pray for someone else to be healed. James 5:16 says to “pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”

Remember, seeing results in prayer can become a way of life for you, when you follow Jesus’ instructions. He said, “All things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.”

Notice He didn’t say you would receive half or three-quarters of your prayers answered. Jesus said all, and He meant exactly what He said.  –Ken Copeland

Just One Drop

by Renesha Chambers

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This is the drop of blood that Jesus shed for me.

I keep this small red stone in my wallet, right there in the section with the coins.

Every time I reach in to grab correct change, I feel this little red stone, this one drop of blood.

And no matter how many times I fumble for a quarter and accidentally touch this drop of blood, I am stopped in my tracks.

I stop because I am instantly reminded of the precious blood that HE shed for me and the nails.

No matter where I am, be it in the check-out lane or at a coke machine, I close my eyes for a moment and say thank you Lord.

Thank you Lord for enduring unbelievable pain and suffering on the cross.

Thank you Lord for submitting to the Will of the Father.

Thank you Lord for throwing my chains of bondage to the ground with Your sacrifice.

Thank you Lord for POURING your blood on me; after all, He did not SPILL his blood.

 A spill is an accident. He didn’t unintentionally bleed.

With great purpose and incomprehensible intent, he POURED out His blood to cover me.

He covers me with a rich layer of life-giving, creation-breathing, air supplying, sin forgiving blood.

My prayer is that I never forget His selfless act of complete surrender and that I always reverence Him in everything I do.

I hope that is your prayer as well, because, if You were the only person on the planet that needed saving from an eternity in Hell, He would pour out his blood…just for You.

Thank Him today for His blood!

EVERYDAYISSWEETER/Renesha Chambers is “Momma” to two beautiful miracle girls, Sydney and Christa. When not changing a diaper, leading worship for her church, or riding a Harley, she is busy blogging or watching old movies with her husband, Chris, the love of her life.

What is God’s Grace Exactly?

 

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Tonight this blog came about by talking to my husband about a certain “weakness” that really does need strengthening in me.  I have the tendency for people who are Christians and have been for years who still shun the truth of God‘s Word to get me really miffed.  This does more than gets under my skin a little bit.  Well, to make a long story short, I, yes the “gracious” me as you all know me, stirred up a bit of controversy because I did tell the truth about something but I did it a bit harshly.  I tried telling it gently for a long period of time, but for what reason, I am not sure why,  I finally let it fly at a person who just would not “let go and let God”.  As I talked to my husband about how unfair this situation was to me he gave me a really great pep talk that I needed and I am sure will need again!  But, I am determined to learn and I will!  This is what he told me.

Whenever Paul was experiencing his issues of being buffeted by satan, God said, “My grace is sufficient for you.”  In Paul’s weakness he was made strong by God’s grace.  In other words, grace is much more than just our children’s church definition of “unmerited favor“.  It is also undeserved blessing, free gifts.   The Greek for grace comes from the words joy and rejoicing.  In other words,  we have reason or “cause to rejoice” because God’s grace is all-sufficient for every area of our life.  Paul told Timothy to be strengthened by the grace of God in the midst of his trials and tests.   In 2 Corinthians Paul tells the Corinthian church that God’s grace causes us to have all-sufficiency in all things.  That all- sufficiency  in all things encompasses ALL THINGS, more than just in giving.  Like in Paul’s situation and in Timothy’s situation, as well as our situations.   In other words, God’s all-encompassing grace that provided all sufficiency in all things causes us that are mature in Christ TO REJOICE in whatever situation we face! 

I have to remember that the thing that buffets me, or is a thorn in my flesh are people who should know better than to beg God and plead with Him to answer their prayers and I need to realize they are always going to exist.  In my contact with them, I cannot take on their unwillingness to use their authority in the name of Jesus, and the Word of God.  I have to be responsible, however, to love them and pray that one day the truth of God’s Word will become Spirit and life to them. I must be patient and until it becomes a true revelation!! 

Blessings, dear reader!  I will see you soon!

What is God’s Grace Exactly?

 

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Tonight this blog came about by talking to my husband about a certain “weakness” that really does need strengthening in me.  I have the tendency for people who are Christians and have been for years who still shun the truth of God‘s Word to get me really miffed.  This does more than gets under my skin a little bit.  Well, to make a long story short, I, yes the “gracious” me as you all know me, stirred up a bit of controversy because I did tell the truth about something but I did it a bit harshly.  I tried telling it gently for a long period of time, but for what reason, I am not sure why,  I finally let it fly at a person who just would not “let go and let God”.  As I talked to my husband about how unfair this situation was to me he gave me a really great pep talk that I needed and I am sure will need again!  But, I am determined to learn and I will!  This is what he told me.

Whenever Paul was experiencing his issues of being buffeted by satan, God said, “My grace is sufficient for you.”  In Paul’s weakness he was made strong by God’s grace.  In other words, grace is much more than just our children’s church definition of “unmerited favor“.  It is also undeserved blessing, free gifts.   The Greek for grace comes from the words joy and rejoicing.  In other words,  we have reason or “cause to rejoice” because God’s grace is all-sufficient for every area of our life.  Paul told Timothy to be strengthened by the grace of God in the midst of his trials and tests.   In 2 Corinthians Paul tells the Corinthian church that God’s grace causes us to have all-sufficiency in all things.  That all- sufficiency  in all things encompasses ALL THINGS, more than just in giving.  Like in Paul’s situation and in Timothy’s situation, as well as our situations.   In other words, God’s all-encompassing grace that provided all sufficiency in all things causes us that are mature in Christ TO REJOICE in whatever situation we face! 

I have to remember that the thing that buffets me, or is a thorn in my flesh are people who should know better than to beg God and plead with Him to answer their prayers and I need to realize they are always going to exist.  In my contact with them, I cannot take on their unwillingness to use their authority in the name of Jesus, and the Word of God.  I have to be responsible, however, to love them and pray that one day the truth of God’s Word will become Spirit and life to them. I must be patient and until it becomes a true revelation!! 

Blessings, dear reader!  I will see you soon!

A Handful On Purpose!

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12 The Lord recompense you for what you have done, and a full reward be given you by the Lord, the God of Israel, under Whose wings you have come to take refuge!

13 Then she said, Let me find favor in your sight, my lord. For you have comforted me and have spoken to the heart of your maidservant, though I am not as one of your maidservants.

14 And at mealtime Boaz said to her, Come here and eat of the bread and dip your morsel in the sour wine [mixed with oil]. And she sat beside the reapers; and he passed her some parched grain, and she ate until she was satisfied and she had some left [for Naomi].

15 And when she got up to glean, Boaz ordered his young men, Let her glean even among the sheaves, and do not reproach her.

16 And let fall some handfuls for her on purpose and let them lie there for her to glean, and do not rebuke her.  Ruth 2:12-16  Amplified Bible

As the holidays approach us something amazing and could only have been “a God thing”  happened to me!  I am a giver!  I live to give!!  If you asked me what I wanted for Christmas I would tell you to be able to give to someone who needed to be given to!  That would be the ideal present for me.

I have to be wise during the holidays.   I have an agreement with certain ones that we will give to the kids and leave it at that.  This year I have been blessed with an added member to our family;  my son’s girlfriend/future daughter-in-love!  I got a call in September that if I wanted a particular project to work on this person could use the help.  It was perfect.  I was able to work from home and it would give me Christmas money I would not have had otherwise.

As Thanksgiving approached I began to ask what each one wanted.  I set a date to get it all done and was thrilled when I was able to say, “Thank you, Father!  Because You opened a door for me, I was able to buy for every single person this year!”

God is so good!  I never expected that person to offer what they did.  I had no idea it was coming.  Last year God did the same thing so my family could have a Christmas such as I wanted to give them!!  Out of the blue, there was an opportunity for me to have “a handful on purpose”.

Ruth did not expect Boaz to favor her.  Because Ruth had been faithful to serve and take care of  her mother-in-law who was related to Boaz, he in turn blessed her.  God sees the so-called little things we do.  He even tells us if we do not brag about the things we do for our neighbor He will reward us openly!  Don’t let your right hand know what your left hand is doing!

He also promises when we are tithers and givers He will cause “men” to give to us pressed down, shaken together, and running over!!  I can tell you for a fact, God makes this promise good!  This isn’t just in heaven but on the earth as well!!  Men don’t give to us in heaven…they give to us in this life on earth!!

David wrote in Psalms he once was young but now is old and he had NEVER seen the righteous forsaken or His seed begging for bread!  God is watchful and faithful to meet our needs and to bless us even beyond that!  He promises us to give us the desires of our hearts when we seek Him first!

Be a giver, dear reader!  First and foremost be a giver as a tither and a giver in the church, but to others in need as well and watch what God will do for you in abundance!  Seek Him first and His righteousness and He WILL add all things unto you!!  What a promise!!  Blessings to you, dear reader!  I will see you soon!!

No One Wins in the Blame Game!

Genesis 3:1-12

3 Now the serpent was the most cunning of all the wild animals that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You can’t eat from any tree in the garden’?”

2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit from the trees in the garden. 3 But about the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden, God said, ‘You must not eat it or touch it, or you will die.’”

4 “No! You will not die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “In fact, God knows that when[a] you eat it your eyes will be opened and you will be like God,[b] knowing good and evil.” 6 Then the woman saw that the tree was good for food and delightful to look at, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom. So she took some of its fruit and ate it; she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made loincloths for themselves.

Sin’s Consequences

8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden at the time of the evening breeze,[c] and they hid themselves from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 So the Lord God called out to the man and said to him, “Where are you?”

10 And he said, “I heard You[d] in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid.”

11 Then He asked, “Who told you that you were naked? Did you eat from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”

12 Then the man replied, “The woman You gave to be with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate.”

Recently, there was a family that came to me for prayer and counsel.  It seems the parents had not been perfect people (surprise, surprise)  and one person wanted to bring up all the imperfections of the past and wreak utter havoc in the family.  The family got together and began to talk to one another about how it had been so peaceful and everyone had gotten along just fine until all this blame began to be thrown around.  Ultimately what this one person said the others had said had not been said at all!  My advice to the family was to sit down together, along with the one who wanted to dredge everything up  and get the whole thing straightened out and certain rules had to be followed.  Each person had to take responsibility for the choices they made, they could not blame people or circumstances, and if apologies were owed they were to be made and the subject could never be brought back up again.  The forgiveness that God showed to the person and persons involved had to be followed and grace given by the family members as well.

I experienced this myself when my mother went into heart failure after her valve repair.  I became very aggravated with her doctor that performed the surgery because he failed to do another procedure that would have stopped my mother’s atrial fiberlation.  What he did was gamble with my mother’s life.  He decided not to do it because his “last 400 patients” had not gone back into it, and my mother came out of surgery WITH IT!  Due to his lack of doing what he said he was going to do and should have done, had it not been for God, my mother would have paid with her life!  One day as my mother lay in her hospital bed, brushing death once again, I began to vent!  I was FURIOUS with this doctor and began to question his thinking on something that was just plain common sense!  My father began to do the same.  My mother looked at us and said, “He didn’t do what he was supposed to do, the problem is ongoing, and we need to stop looking back and think of what we need to do from here!  It is over and we cannot go back and redo it now!”

How many times have we wasted time, become so angry, blaming people and things for things we can do absolutely nothing about?  It only harms and never helps anything.  It prolongs us from praying about it, which is the only thing we can do. God specifically tells us in James we have not because we ask not!  In other words the longer we engage in blaming and being angry the longer it will be before we see an answer because it cost us precious time in petitioning or asking God for the very thing that can turn it around!

The blame game didn’t work with Adam and Eve!  It got them kicked right out of the Garden of Eden and it won’t work today, either.  There is a saying that says the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over and expect a different result.  Blaming never brings a solution.  If you are in a situation and there is chaos, fighting, upset, and anger and all peace is gone ask yourself if you are in a blaming mode?  Pray and listen to the Spirit of God.  He is the genius that lives big on the inside of you!   He knows exactly how to turn it around and you will feel so much better so much sooner and so will everyone else around you and STAY OUT OF THE BLAME GAME!    Don’t blame others and don’t let them blame you, either!  You will be happier, healthier, and life will be so much more content for all!

Blessings to you, dear reader!  See you soon!!

Romans 14…The Law of Liberty

Romans 14

Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB)

The Law of Liberty

14 Accept anyone who is weak in faith,[a] but don’t argue about doubtful issues. 2 One person believes he may eat anything, but one who is weak eats only vegetables. 3 One who eats must not look down on one who does not eat, and one who does not eat must not criticize one who does, because God has accepted him. 4 Who are you to criticize another’s household slave? Before his own Lord he stands or falls. And he will stand. For the Lord is able[b] to make him stand.

5 One person considers one day to be above another day. Someone else considers every day to be the same. Each one must be fully convinced in his own mind. 6 Whoever observes the day, observes it for the honor of the Lord.[c] Whoever eats, eats for the Lord, since he gives thanks to God; and whoever does not eat, it is for the Lord that he does not eat it, yet he thanks God. 7 For none of us lives to himself, and no one dies to himself. 8 If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. Therefore, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. 9 Christ died and came to life for this: that He might rule over both the dead and the living. 10 But you, why do you criticize your brother? Or you, why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before the tribunal of God.[d] 11 For it is written:

As I live, says the Lord, every knee will bow to Me, and every tongue will give praise to God.[e]

12 So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God.

The Law of Love

13 Therefore, let us no longer criticize one another. Instead decide never to put a stumbling block or pitfall in your brother’s way. 14 (I know and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself. Still, to someone who considers a thing to be unclean, to that one it is unclean.) 15 For if your brother is hurt by what you eat, you are no longer walking according to love. Do not destroy that one Christ died for by what you eat. 16 Therefore, do not let your good be slandered, 17 for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 Whoever serves Christ in this way is acceptable to God and approved by men.

19 So then, we must pursue what promotes peace and what builds up one another. 20 Do not tear down God’s work because of food. Everything is clean, but it is wrong for a man to cause stumbling by what he eats. 21 It is a noble thing not to eat meat, or drink wine, or do anything that makes your brother stumble.[f] 22 Do you have a conviction?[g] Keep it to yourself before God. The man who does not condemn himself by what he approves is blessed. 23 But whoever doubts stands condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from a conviction,[h] and everything that is not from a conviction[i] is sin.

I Say I Surrender All, But Has God Ever Asked Me To?

There is a song we sang at church that says, “I surrender all….I surrender all…all to thee my precious Saviour, I surrender all”!  We then would go on to hear the story of when Abraham laid Isaac on the altar of sacrifice and how he was willing to give up his own son for God.  We then would pray and truly surrender all to Jesus.  This means we meant we would put nothing ahead of Him!

As this came to me today, I began to think, “Has God ever asked me to give up everything as He did the rich young ruler and follow Him?  Have I ever lost everything I own and people I treasure?”  You see, dear reader, it is the mindset of being WILLING to surrender all if asked, but even in that I have not been asked to part with anything.  Many have given their lives, their homes, their friends, and so much more to do what Jesus has called them to do.   What is our true treasure?

Today, as this song whirled around and around in my mind I said again, “Father, truly I do surrender all!  Where you lead, I will follow, where you say go, I will go!”  I do mean that with all of my heart, but then I thought of my parents, my home, my church, my comfort zone.  I thought if I mean it, I will be able to do it!  BUT, I need to be sure I mean it and if I don’t it is time to have a deep encounter with myself!

Many missionaries, Christians on foreign lands have done this very thing and felt honored to do so!  There is a verse that says in Matthew 19:29

“And everyone who has given up houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother
or children or property, for my sake, will receive a hundred times as much in
return and will inherit eternal life.”

God does not always require this, but He is promising recompense in this life and in the life which is to come IF we willingly surrender ALL, not just portions we can do without!

God never intended for Isaac to be the sacrifice, but He wanted to know if He was still Abraham’s first love, His WILLING servant, even unto death!  That is a good question for me today.  Have I really kept ALL surrendered to my first love, Jesus?  Have I kept myself in a place of appreciation of all that my Lord and Saviour, Jesus has done for me?  If not, what needs to be set aside?  The sooner priorities are set properly back in place the sooner I can effect this world by the hand of God FOR God and never for myself!!

Only what I do for God will last, all other things will forever pass!  You see, my precious reader, it will all be gone one day anyway!  Only what you do for God will reach into eternity.  Let it go now, so that you may inherit what is forever lasting and forever rewarding.  No more quick fixes!  You have too much to gain or much to lose according to your choice!  I pray you choose wisely, and that I do the same!!

Blessings to you, precious reader!!  May God protect and keep you this day and forevermore.  May your life be full of joy and contentment in Him!!  I will see you soon!!