Before I ever dated my husband or even gave dating him a thought, I knew he loved the Lord. In growing closer to him as friends, I began to see his heart and him mine. While engaged, we prayed together, did devotionals together and went to church together. In my mind, it would always be that way. But as most of you know, that can easily get away from you. Although, I was still spending time alone with God, (and so was he) we could never find the time or would make the time to seek God together. My hubby was gone all of the time with work and tired when he got home. Then Cooper came along and there was a baby in the home on top of the other 3 boys and all of their stuff. Homework and baseball, Steven’s football games and then wrestling meets, driving Steven back and forth to go to school at St. Thomas in Houston each day (1.5 hr round trip in rush hour traffic), yard work, laundry that seemed endless, dinner and dishes and on and on… by the time the two of us had time to sit down, it seemed the only time we spent together was zoned out on the TV. Sound familiar?
One thing that stood out the most, though, is when we didn’t put God first in OUR relationship with each other, trouble would come our way. We would argue more, not be intimate as much or not at all, our finances were burdened, we weren’t on the same page with parenting the kids… it was just more chaos.
If you and your hubby find yourselves not as connected with each other and maybe aren’t spending time in the Lord, here’s some things I know work for us and I want to share them with you:
1. Pray together.
Pray about your marriage, pray about your children, pray about your finances, pray about any decisions you make together. One thing I love about my husband is that he never makes the decision to buy something on a whim. He insists we go home and “sleep” on it. Well often times we go home (especially if it’s a big purchase) and pray on it. Even if it’s in the bathroom after we brush our teeth, getting ready for bed. He stops me or I stop him, “Hey, let’s do this now while we have a minute.”
2. Read the Bible/Do Devotions together.
There are TONS of books, workbooks, devotionals out there to work on and read with your spouse. It was hard for us to even decide where to start. Ask your pastor or a friend who may have a book to lend or can recommend a good devotional. You can even find things to read and print from the internet. Make sure your information is coming from a good source but I have found wonderful pieces of marriage/devotional material from the internet.
3. Go to church together.
Not just going to church together, but agreeing on a church together. It is so important to both be pleased with the place God will have you worship and serve. You are a team and God will be able to use you even more if you both agree on the church you attend.
4. Serve in a ministry together.
Find a ministry at your church that you can do together. It doesn’t have to be the nursery… there are literally 100’s of things you can do to serve and minister in your church. Serving together = growing together.
5. Pray for each other.
I know we already talked about praying together, but what about praying for each other separately? Your husband needs your prayers all day long, and it is our jobs as wives to keep him in prayer during the day. I’m not talking about being on your knees 24/7, but lifting him up in prayer as you think about him or talk to him during the day. Stormie Omartian’s “Power of a Praying Wife” is a great place to start! (to grab this book CLICK HERE!)
6. Put each other first.
What better way to put Christ first in your marriage then by following his example of being selfless? Sometimes it’s hard to put our husbands first because we want what we want. But if we love him, then we will want to do the right thing, we will want to think of him before ourselves. If we make it a practice to put our husbands first before ourselves each day, I believe that we will have a better marriage because of it. It also sets a great tone for the marriage and before you know it, your hubby will be following suit.
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33
Praying today that you are blessed in your relationship!!
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