Being a Mom of 4 boys, I have given my share of “time outs“. My boys range from 2 1/2 to 20 and what I have realized over the years is, you are NEVER too big for a time out! Most of the time we think about “time outs” as a consequence for a 2-year-old throwing a temper tantrum. But, what if you were a parent or teenager and every time a conversation got heated, or off track or even our of control, we called a “time-out”? Like a football or baseball game time-out. Whoever is involved, honors the others call for a time-out, and takes a break for a few minutes or even a few hours and  comes back later in the game with a new outlook.

 

 This is an awesome strategy we have learned from our friend and counselor, Jacquie. She reminds us that even as married adults, this works very well in conflicting situations or discussions.

God says in Ephesians 4:26 (and I love the New Living Translation),

26 “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry,

Taking a simple “Hey, let’s take a break and come back to this later” will not hurt you, it will only help. And it will make your conversation be much more productive. This has worked wonders with our teenager who is now 20. We still often (more times than I’d like admit) use this strategy with him to help both my husband and me not go “crazy” on him. 🙂 He respects us more and we don’t say anything we will regret later.

Of course, our two-year old still gets the traditional, “nose to the wall” time-out, from time to time. And honestly, even our 8-year-old occasionally receives this consequence when necessary. But for the rest of us in the family, we freely give ourselves a good time-out when needed and it always does us good. 

Thanks for stopping by today! Have a blessed weekend!

Kim

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2 thoughts on “Time-outs, not just for Toddlers.

  1. My son Jaydon turns 2 this month and he is already in full temper tantrum phase. Jaydon has a little cushion chair that I put him in when he needs a time-out. It’s under his book shelf so we let him take a book to look at while he sits.

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