from fear to forgiveness


I taught public school for twenty years.  I saw everything under the sun and then some!  After I retired, I began to volunteer with our local battered women’s shelter (men also were victims of domestic violence) and with our local Crime Victims Assistance Unit

When someone faces abuse, especially of a mental nature, the victim rarely gets over it!  It is a permanent damage done for life, IF they do not find God and seek help through Him!  Many people stay in therapy and tied to a counselor and psychiatrist the rest of their lives, especially if that abuse took place in childhood. 

Abuse is about one word…CONTROL!  The abuser is almost always someone who will cripple another person’s ability to think and act independently of the controller.  We had certain men and women who had to be told what to eat for lunch the abuse had been so bad!  They were told where and when they could go somewhere, how long they could stay, what they could and could not eat, what they could and could not wear, and anything could send the abuser off into an unexpected and unprovoked tirade!  Their lives were lived in constant fear.  Many of the victims suffered Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  They had been in war zones right inside their homes!

Joyce Meyer teaches so much toward this subject and it is so anointed and full of power.  I have felt as of late, I needed to post some of these teachings!  If you have or are experiencing abuse, get help!  It is easier than you think!  Then ask God to heal your mind and emotions!  He will!  In Him our future is always bright!  Blessings to you, dear reader!  May you be blessed with freedom, joy, and abundant peace!!  Juliana

I was about 45 years old and still suffering from the painful abuse I experienced as a child when I felt an unquestionable urge to confront my dad. God was showing me that facing my abuser was the only way to break the cycle of fear in my life.

It was extremely hard for me to do because I knew I would experience his anger again, and I did. But I also accomplished what God was leading me to do. And it helped me break free.

We must always do the part God leads us to do, no matter how the other party reacts.

Most of you reading this aren’t dealing with the kind of person I’m talking about, but you do encounter angry people in your life. Some of you are in relationship with someone who is angry.

Because an angry man dictated my life for so many years, I was angry and vented my anger through my words and attitudes. My anger manifested frequently when things didn’t go my way. I was wrong, and I needed godly confrontation.

One of the best things my husband, Dave, did for me was not allow my anger to make him unhappy. He never let me steal his joy. He let me know that if I wanted to be unhappy that was up to me, but he was going to be happy either way. He was consistent for a long period of time, and I finally realized that I was missing a lot in life. I needed to change.

Be an Example to Hurting People

  Because I had never lived in a stable atmosphere, I didn’t know what it looked like. Dave was an example of stability to me, and that was extremely important. Had he merely told me to stop being angry and responded to my anger with anger of his own, I don’t think I would have ever changed. As they say, “Two wrongs don’t make a right.”

According to God’s Word, we are not to confront anger with anger, evil with evil, or insult with insult. See Peter 3:9.

I am well aware that doing this is more difficult than reading about it, but anything God asks us to do, He will give us the strength to do if we are willing to obey Him. God does have the solution to any problem we have, and His ways always work if we will cooperate with Him.

Only God Can Change People

“I believe one of the best things you can do for an angry person is to show them by example that there is a better way to live and behave.”

I believe one of the best things you can do for an angry person is to show them by example that there is a better way to live and behave. But nobody can change until they want to. If you try to change people in your life yourself, it will only frustrate you. Only God changes people from the inside out, and He does it in His timing.

So pray for the people you know who struggle with anger to let God work in their lives, and be an example of peace and stability to them!

Don’t Let Hurting People Make You Unhappy

  When I say at my conferences that we should not let someone else’s attitude determine our level of joy, I always get an amazing response. I can see from the audience’s faces that some of them have done that without even realizing they had another choice.

Can we really be joyful when other people we are around are angry and unhappy?

Yes, we can if we set our mind to do so. Just maintain a calm delight in their presence. Assure them that you love them and want them to be happy, but you’re not going to let their decisions dictate your quality of life. In other words, don’t become codependent of someone else’s behavior.

Partner with God to Make a Way

  Don’t give up hope for angry people in your life. They obviously are hurt or have something wrong in their past that’s causing the anger. Pray and continue to pray that they will see the truth and begin to walk in the light. See Matthew 7:7.

I believe when we pray, God works! Sometimes we’ll get answers immediately and other times we will pray for what seems like a lifetime. Be committed to keep praying and thanking God that He is working in the lives of people even if you aren’t yet seeing results.


3 thoughts on “From Fear to Forgiveness/Dealing With Anger!

  1. I am so very grateful to Joyce Meyers ministries as she has helped me and my family in our most difficult times. I love her bible as she explains the bible and the pocket book The Secret Power Of Speaking GOD’s Word. Great post!

    1. I have her Bible, too! I got it for Mother’s Day about 5 years ago and LOVE IT!!! I am a confesser, too…not a blab it and grab it, but stand on the Word, confess it and EXPECT IT! Oh, I am so happy to have a new friend that feels and believes that, too! You have blessed me!! Juliana

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