Have you ever sat and just thought about things? Things like what a good friend you are but when you need one there doesn’t seem to be a soul! How you do so much for everyone, yet when you have a need where is everybody, or for that matter ANYBODY?? How everyone seems to have close friends but you? How you have leaped to help people in need and nobody leaps to help you? Well, you were invited to a party and went…the event was called “A Surprise Pity Party Just for You”, the devil was the host, and you had a grand ole time! Now I am not being mean and insensitive, dear reader! There are people dealing with real issues out there. I am talking about when we create our own trouble with wrong thinking!! I have been to plenty of these myself!! But, to let you know what is happening at these parties, let’s get to the root of it all!
Have you ever heard an idle mind is the devil’s workshop? How true this is. He is the one that brings the movie ( you seeing yourself abandoned and alone), the refreshments are salty water called tears, and the guest of honor is you because you are having it all by yourself and it is all about you! You have conversations with yourself that usually go something like this “I never leave the house (there is that idle mind with nothing to do), nobody ever calls, nobody ever asks me to lunch (usually we are asked but turn the lunch date down because we are so depressed by our self-pity we just don’t want to be around anyone right now!), We have helped so many and nobody lifts a finger to help us”. That is what self pity does. It causes you to think negatively about others. Maybe those people we are thinking of are going through hard times themselves and what started out with God bringing them to our hearts for prayer, turned into what shortcomings they seem to have and prayer never goes up for them as God intended. Maybe the reason we aren’t hearing from others is because when they call all we say is, “I just want a day at home!” because we are so depressed by all the self pity we have rehearsed! We are our own worst enemy most of the time! But if every word we think is supposedly true we are still wrong because we are never alone when we have Jesus!
At a pity party nobody ever wins! Not you or the ones that are “missing the mark with you”! We need to stop and think, when was the last time we asked that person we are criticizing in our minds how they were doing? When they told us did we really listen or did we redirect the conversation back to all of our “troubles”? That is selfishness within itself. When did we call and say, “Let’s do lunch today? Oh, you can’t today? What is a good day for you?” and give this person benefit of the doubt and some wiggle room to have a life themselves instead of taking it as rejection and they don’t want time with you? Could it be this person had no idea you had a need, because you have stayed home and refused real contact with anyone?
Every time I think of self-pity I think of the man at the pool of Bethesda. He had been there for years! We have talked about this one before, but it is fitting to look again! Let’s read the account…
2 Now there is in Jerusalem a pool near the Sheep Gate. This pool in the Hebrew is called Bethesda, having five porches (alcoves, colonnades, doorways).
3 In these lay a great number of sick folk—some blind, some crippled, and some paralyzed (shriveled up)—[a]waiting for the bubbling up of the water.
4 For an angel of the Lord went down at appointed seasons into the pool and moved and stirred up the water; whoever then first, after the stirring up of the water, stepped in was cured of whatever disease with which he was afflicted.
5 There was a certain man there who had suffered with a deep-seated and lingering disorder for thirty-eight years.
6 When Jesus noticed him lying there [helpless], knowing that he had already been a long time in that condition, He said to him, Do you want to become well? [Are you really in earnest about getting well?]
7 The invalid answered, Sir, I have nobody when the water is moving to put me into the pool; but while I am trying to come [into it] myself, somebody else steps down ahead of me.
8 Jesus said to him, Get up! Pick up your bed (sleeping pad) and walk!” John 5:1-8
Did you notice Jesus didn’t say, “Well, God bless your sweet darling heart! I’ll help you! How horrible!” I used to read this and think, to me, Jesus almost seemed a little aggravated with the man! Why? Because He knew if he stroked that self-pity the man would be a captive to it the rest of his life and no condition of his life would ever change. He knew the man was hurting himself, and He wasn’t going to enable it!
If you are going to rehearse anything, rehearse your blessings! Thank God you could be a help to people! That you had your health and were able to work, when others could not! Rehearse the friendships God has brought you through the years and have a “friends party”. Take them out just to show how much you appreciate all the times in the past they were there for you before life got so chaotic for them! Rehearse the goodness and blessings God has poured out on you and praise God for sticking with you with mercy and grace! There is a song titled, “Count Your Blessings”! The first verse says….”Count your blessings name them one by one, Count your blessings seeing all God has done!” You won’t be in that pity party long when you do that! Magnify the Lord and exalt HIS name and watch your day turn on a dime, as we say in Texas! You will be blessed and I have a feeling someone else in your life will be, too!
Have a good day all day, dear reader! See you soon!!