Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler. Proverbs 20:19 ESV
There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers. Proverbs 6:16-19 ESV
For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases. Proverbs 26:20
I think at some time or another each one of us has been talked about. I was amazed when I began to look up scriptures on gossiping because most of them come out of Proverbs, which was written by one of the wisest men that ever lived, Solomon! That alone should tell us a great deal.
Gossip is one of the most destroying, hurtful, ostrisizing, and bullying behaviors known to mankind. One word from one person can destroy another’s reputation, character, and even their life! No wonder God hates it so much! Hate is a powerful word. Did you realize God is capable of hating? He doesn’t hate people, but in black and white He does HATE certain behaviors! Gossiping is a behavior that is so loathsome to God, He calls it an abomination in His eyes. Abomination is something that causes disgust or hatred. Such a simple definition, yet so profound at the same time!
We are instructed by God to not be friends with two types of people. We are not to be friends with an angry person according to the word and we are not to be friends with one who delights in gossip! Why is this so important and why would God make this such a point? Because gossip, even though you are not telling it, in hearing it, it poisons you! Proverbs 26:22 says, “The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of body” (heart which in the Bible means “mind”). Anger and gossip will rub off on you. Just as most of us cannot resist sweets, that is what gossip becomes like. It is like a tasty addiction, whether in spreading it or in hearing it.
Have you ever noticed gossips have their own “circle of friends”? Why? Because one wants to know what the other one has heard! I think the best thing my mother ever taught me and it has proved true for the 51 years I have lived life is this, “If someone will talk to you about another person, they will talk about you!” I have seen this time and again!
There is a woman in our area, yes you read that correctly AREA, known as the tri-county gossip! She thinks she is so smart. She will act like you are having a casual conversation, and then she will run, twist what you say, and spread it as truth! She is known, not only in our town, but in three counties! I know someone whose father-in-law would get phone calls from her. She would say, “What you know?” He would then make up some ridiculous lie that anyone with any lick of sense (as we say in Texas) would know couldn’t possibly be true and then would laugh and laugh because she couldn’t get off the phone fast enough to go tell it! It would get back around to him about four or five days later and he would say, “I told her that mess just to get a good laugh out of her!” He would laughingly say, slapping his knee the whole time because it worked! Nobody in their right mind would say anything of any consequence to her! What has gossip done to this woman? It has made her look like a fool! Even people who are seen with her have had their character questioned for keeping company with one so evil and untrustworthy! In other words, who you keep company with can literally affect your ministry, your witness, and your reputation! The Bible says a good name is better to be had than silver or gold! It is important that your good is not thought evil of according to the word. Be careful who you hang with, is an expression I always told my children! You may be innocent, but if there is mischief making by the one you are with, you will be in trouble, too!
I love our first verse, the second half…. but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered. Be a man and woman of your word. When someone tells you to keep something confidential, it is so important to do so. Folks, it is a sad thing, when you become a warning to others from God’s mouth that you cannot be trusted to keep a confidence! I want God to say, “You can trust her and she will take it to her grave”, not “be careful of that one!”
If you ever want to be used mightily of God, God has to be able to trust you with the hearts of His children. Which of us would leave our child with a known abuser?? Only a fool would do such a thing, and God is no fool, dear reader!! God will not entrust His child to you if you cannot be trusted to control your tongue! If you are going to let your mouth fly, God will shut some things down until we grow up enough He can trust us! Let us not waste one second of God’s time or our own! Let us always be counted trustworthy!
Blessings to you, dear reader! I will see you soon!!