This week while my mother was being cardioverted or “shocked” back into a normal sinus rhythm, there was a woman that came to visit her.  She is a person that, at first, she seems so nice!  There will be years you haven’t seen her and when you do she is so sweet you think, “Wow, why did I ever lose touch with her?”  She says all the right things, does all the right things–at first!  Then after some time around her,  you have what I call a “Ohhhhh, yeah!” moment.

It doesn’t take long to see what is at the root of someone.  Usually you can tell by what reaction people give while they are mad.  You can tell a great deal by the things they say.   I have heard the true test of character can be seen when someone gets angry because people tend to let it “fly” then.  If you are really as “spiritual” as you are trying to let the pastor, or someone else you want to impress think you are, then no matter how pressured you are, you’re character will remain intact.  If you are just trying to impress, it won’t be long you will start to resemble a boil.  The more you are pressed, the more gunk comes out of you (forgive my frankness here).  You can quote scripture one moment, and then get into the flesh full force if you have not allowed God to develop His character in you!

There is a scripture in the Bible that tells how to deal with people like this.  It is in Proverbs 22:24 “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered.”  I had a pastor preach on this one time.  He said people who anger quickly  bring strife into the atmosphere and then all manner of evil can take place.  He said how important it is to stay away from people who are given to temper, because it will “infect you”.  Now, this is a phrase that caught my attention!  To “infect” someone, is to give someone a virus or disease that can make them sick and, depending on what the disease is, can even kill them!  We all get angry from time to time, but when that anger is a part of someone’s personality and you continue to subject yourself to it, it will become a part of yours as well.  Anger separates and divides. The Bible tells us it does not promote the “righteousness of God”,  which means “God’s way to of doing and being”.  If it isn’t promoting righteousness, it is promoting sin!  It brings contention to the physical body and the body of Christ as well.   The Bible says it is better to be alone with a dinner of herbs than in a mansion and a dinner of steak where there is contention!  According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary contention is heated disagreement.   Here are some scriptures on a contentious spirit:   According to Proverbs 6:12-19  it says, 12 A troublemaker and a villain,     who goes about with a corrupt mouth, 13     who winks maliciously with his eye,     signals with his feet     and motions with his fingers, 14     who plots evil   with deceit in his heart—     he always stirs up conflict. 15 Therefore disaster will overtake him in an instant;     he will suddenly  be destroyed—without remedy.16There are six things the Lord hates,  seven that are detestable to him: 17   haughty eyes, a lying tongue,  hands that shed innocent blood, 18  a heart that devises wicked schemes,  feet that are quick to rush into evil, 19   a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community.  NIV 

 “We find in Proverbs 15:18a that “A wrathful man stirs up strife.”

In  Proverbs 16:28a we are told “A froward man sows strife.”

Proverbs 22:10  says “Cast out the scorner, and contentions shall go out; yes, strife and  reproach shall cease.”

Proverbs 26:20 tells us a “talebearer” causes  strife.

Proverbs 28:25a says a proud-hearted person stirs up strife.

Proverbs 29:22a says an angry man stirs up strife.”

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In other words a person of contention has not built Godly character….they are just a character period!  Stay away from them!

Character bears up under pressure!  Character often times is BUILT by pressure!  Characters cause strife and contention during times of pressure and usually times of peace as well!!  These people are to be loved, but loved from AFAR at all cost!  Remember bad company corrupts good character, according to the word!  It will actually bring you to demise if you are not obedient to who God says to associate with and who to NOT associate with!  According to Proverbs 27:16-17

16 Whoever attempts to restrain [a contentious woman] might as well try to stop the wind—his right hand encounters oil [and she slips through his fingers].

17 Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose].

Isn’t it funny that this proverb starts out about a contentious spirit and leads into a friend can make you stronger or more enraged?  Stay with Godly people who are full of the God’s character, my precious reader!  Not with people who want to control and have a fit if you don’t let them!  They are poison!  You are to be full of life!  Stay with “life giving” sources!

Thank you for stopping by, dear reader!  I will see you soon!

2 thoughts on “Are You a Character or Do You HAVE Character?

  1. Negative people can do the same. I have a friend who complains & is a victim….all the time. She is a believer, but is NOT growing or doing anything toward growing & changing. I feel that God has put her in my life for a reason…but man, sometimes, I just need a break.

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